Recently, one friend asked me she is not sure the marriage can help each other to know God more, will it become the idol that replace God’s position in her heart?
First we must look at the way God intended marriage to be.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Genesis 2:24 NKJV
God intended for the husband and wife to come together as “one flesh.” The husband is to be the spiritual leader and authority, and also care for and guide his wife; the wife should submit and allow this to happen and also be his “helper.”
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
Ephesians 5:22-33 NKJV
So you see, a marriage was instituted by god to also show his relationship with us. So to answer your question again, yes, if the husband and wife carry themselves throughout their marriage as God intended it will bring them closer to God because He will be the center of their marriage.
Marriage is like a triangle. On one side is a brother and one is a sister. The topmost one is God.
When the husbands and wives continue to walk toward God, the two can only get closer and closer. You can achieve unity in the Lord.
Marriage is not just two people. You look at me. I look at you. But two people look at God together.
I love my husband is not for his sake, but Christ.
Otherwise it is adultery.
I think you can have more time to share grace and read the Bile and pray together.