The Bible tells us not to judge others. But in our life, we can find some people are totally wrong, we should tell them it’s wrong. How to tell them in a way they will not feel being judged.
Those people as parents have the responsibility to lovingly correct their children. Therefore, correcting a behavior or training their child isn’t a judgment, it’s their job. It’s their job because of their relationship with the children. This is the basic point…whether someone is judging or correcting someone comes down to your relationship with them.
If we are a mentor, leader or dear friend to someone we can probably offer advice or correction without the assumption we’re “judging them.” Being biblically corrected is a gift.
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It is to say with love, not to say with judgment. It’s best to find someone he can trust and to speak in an acceptable way. It also requires much prayer and wisdom to speak.
In my own words. How to tell someone they’re wrong without pissing them off.
Choose your time carefully. Once you’ve decided that you do need to speak up, think very carefully about when and how. If at all possible, speak in private, so there’s no chance you will embarrass him in front of others. Correcting him or her in front of other people is probably the worst possible time.
I think it is how you say it or how you deliver the message. Some people get can be very sensitive with how you express your thoughts. And of course, use kind words when expressing. We want an effective communication and not misunderstandings or fights.
We should not say anything hurtful when we are trying to explain someone’s mistake. Rather, we need to choose the correct terms to say so that the person may also understand your point thus understanding his/her mistake. This way, the person may have a chance to change their behavior and realize their wrongdoing. We should always remember that the attitude we present may affect people in different ways.
Hello, dear @Lilian,
I really like this post! As I can learn how do other people correct their loved ones. For me, I just always try to tell the person who’s in the wrong the situation with tact, as you probably know this, but nobody likes to be corrected. Basically because it makes us feel dumb, and that represents in anger, this happens a lot when the people don’t know how to say things.
I try to make it so the person tells me how they would feel if they were the ones being wronged, so they themselves get to the conclusion that what they are doing it’s bad/wrong. Of course if they don’t realize it, or actively don’t want to, then you have to say things a little more direct.
Kind regards, Luis Guerrero.
There are two types of correction: Positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement. I have always been an advocate of positive reinforcement because it strengthens the spirit of people, encouraging them to do better. Personally, I tell people they’re wrong in a jokingly loving way. I learned it from the people I encountered in my life and it’s effective even in people you just met.
Be purposeful. A rebuke should not be vindictive in nature or driven by jealousy or selfish interests. The betterment of your friend should be your sole objective. If this is not the case, you may only be acting from your emotions – and things will not go well. You will likely not be received well by your friend. Check your motive first. This is where prayer beforehand comes in handy. Be loving. As we should do with everything, correction of any kind should come in the context of a loving relationship. In fact, one standard might be to not rebuke people you don’t love. If done correctly a rebuke is a part of love.
There are multiple ways in which someone can be wrong: they may be motivated to think something that is not true, they may have false or out dated information, or they may be partially right but not entirely so. Whatever the case, the art of telling someone they are wrong involves convincing them with the reason, logic, and facts in a manner that eases them into, rather than is aggressive about, the realization that they are mistaken. It can be uncomfortable to tell someone they are wrong, but there are times when it is necessary to do so. Below are ways to navigate the situation in a way that will be most convincing and least tumultuous for both parties involved.