My cousin is very religious and keeps telling us how we need to change, but to be honest most of our family avoids her because we don’t like her self-righteous, “holier-than-thou” attitude. She’s always lecturing us because we don’t do things exactly the way she thinks we should, and we get tired of it. Are we wrong?
I saw this kind of people. I think you can first check your life, if there’s something, correct it, if not, don’t take your cousin’s words too seriously.
For this issue, I think that we should distinguish the sin and the humans. We should never tolerate the sin but we should love the person.
It’s easy for us to become self-righteous, only when we know our sin deeply, we can realize how sinful we are. Jesus Christ has shown us the real righteousness, so that we can know the sin deeply. I think a humble life is the most effective way to help others to know their pride.