Paul taught wives to submit to their husbands, what's your understanding?

Paul taught wives to submit to their husbands, what's your understanding?

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

The issue of authority and submission in marriage should not come up very often. A loving, sensitive husband will not force his wife to do anything against God’s will, and he will not push her into anything distasteful or harmful to her. He will never assert his authority to get his own way. When there are disagreements, they should be worked through calmly in love. In making decisions, a wise husband will solicit and carefully weigh his wife’s insights, so that most decisions will be mutually agreed on.

Wives should respect their husbands, and the husbands should love their wife. Then they will live in harmony. :blush::blush:

Submitting is not unconditional, otherwise what if a husband wants his wife do something really bad, just like giving up faith or participating in a crime. So wives submit to their husband must be in the Lord.
As what Paul has told in Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. And in the Lord, it means the couple must love each other.
And before submitting, couples should have enough communication. Whatever, the submission is not just one side, husband must respect and love his wife.
Ephesians 5: 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Couples are united, and they should not be separated, so submission is taken for granted.

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I agree, but it’s not all. Husband also should love their wives as Jesus loves the Church even died for the church.

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I think you really nailed it here. It’s just sometimes hard to tell the difference between your words and the quoted scriptures.

Submission is easier for the wives when the husband is loving and gentle, and when you agree with him. It’s not easy when he is not being godly or when you disagree with him. You should never obey your husband if it means disobeying a clear command of God. But even then, you can display a submissive attitude (“a gentle and quiet spirit,” 1 Pet. 3:4) and appeal to him out of love and respect. Your goal should be always to glorify God and to build your husband.

Amen. Christian marriages should be radically different from worldly marriages. In a Christian marriage, rather than competing with the husband or trying to manipulate him to get her way, the wife willingly submits to him, seeking to build him in the Lord and to do all she can to please him. The husband–rather than bullying his wife or, as often happens, passively letting her have her way so that he can buy himself some peace–the Christian husband provides loving leadership, sacrificially giving himself to build and nurture his wife in the Lord.

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It means to submit him in the truth. If he orders his wife to do eveil things, surely his wife should not abey him.

What Paul meant was not the obedience shown in the upper and lower relationships. In love it means that your wife loves and respects her husband. Paul taught his husband to love and respect his wife.

Surely we can understand that Paul wants wives to obey God in truth. It doesn’t mean wives should obey at any condition.

Paul also taught that husbands should love their wives as Jesus loves the church even love to death. It’s not easy. But it’s really a wonderful relationship if we could obey the teaching from Apostle Paul.

Paul means that wives should know the principle of the Bible. God set hasband as the head of the family. Wives should submit husband in truth.

Husband is the head of family. The Bible said wives should submit to their husbands, but also said husbands would love their wives like Jesus Christ loves church.
Husbands need respect. Wives need love.

Here’s a sermon that might help on this rather deep question. It requires a deep understanding, and more than just the wife … MacArthur talks about how the man needs to be humbly submissive as well.

The Willful Submission of a Christian Wife
28 1/2 minutes long.