So what can we do about our feelings and instincts when don’t align with our God-given purpose?
Be not conformed to the world but be renewed in your mind that you may prove what is acceptable to God
We are fallible humans. Our feelings lie to us often. We need to lean on scripture in times like you are describing.
God decides our purpose, and has it planned out of our beginning. It’s important that we don’t get ahead of God. Sometimes we have to wait on his timing instead of trying to plan on our schedule.